Leader in the Making
by Angela Sanders, Freelance Writer
“And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” 2 Corinthians 9:8
Twelve-year-old Trinity finds relief in her newfound home at Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children (OBHC). “It’s nice for us to be somewhere we can support each other and just grow up in the right order at the right pace.”
This beautiful and smart seventh grader has a big heart and even bigger dreams. “Someday, I want to be a lawyer,” Trinity says, eyes bright. “I was thinking about going into environmental law. I’m hoping to get into Stanford someday, but the scholarship they offer wouldn’t be enough to cover tuition, so I may have to go somewhere else. If I don’t get to be a lawyer, I would like to go to culinary school and become a chef. I really enjoy cooking because it gives me time to think. It’s fun for me. When I cook, I don’t feel like I have to get it done right away, but just take my time and have fun. My favorite recipe is probably cheesy mashed potatoes. My grandmother taught me how to make them.”
When she’s not cooking, Trinity enjoys helping with the animals on campus and assisting Mr. Mitchell with animal related chores.
“This will be my first year showing animals,” Trinity says. “I’ve been wanting to for a while. I’m getting a sheep. I’ll name it Prince or Princess Fluffy depending on if it’s a boy or girl. I’m also getting a pig, I’m going to name Choppy. It’s going to be a lot of fun! I’m an animal lover, and animals love me back.”
Trinity moved to OBHC about seven months ago. “My aunt couldn’t handle me,” Trinity admits. “There were a lot of people living at her house. Too many! When my aunt and counselor told me I had to go live somewhere else, I was sad. I didn’t want to leave, but I was excited about having a new experience. Before I came here, I thought it was going to be scary and hard, but when I saw the campus, I started thinking this could work.”
Trinity appreciates the time and attention her houseparents have given her and feels fortunate to have them in her corner, teaching, correcting and loving her.
“They take us to do fun stuff and have a good sense of humor,” Trinity says. “They forgive us for our mistakes really quickly, and when we’re down, they talk to us. If we don’t feel like talking, we can ask for a little space and they’ll give it to us, but come back to us later. They don’t blow it off and forget. They hang out with us and take us places. I really like the way they cook and how they help us eat healthy.”
“I’ve learned a lot from my houseparents,” Trinity continues, “like how to ask for help, how to do things before you are told, and how to take care of animals. They’re also helping me get better at my people skills. My self-esteem can get low. When it does, my anger goes up. Sometimes, I just storm off…just drop what I’m doing and leave. It does help me think, but it doesn’t help me get along with people. They need me to be able to talk through problems. When people do that to me, I understand, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay for me to act that way to others and expect them to understand just because I would.”
“I’m also learning a lot about Jesus here,” Trinity says, thoughtful. “I’ve learned He is there for us all the time no matter what and if He doesn’t answer your prayers right away, it doesn’t mean He doesn’t care or isn’t listening. He promised to give us what we need, not necessarily what we want.”
Trinity is grateful to live at OBHC, where she can continue to grow and mature in a healthy environment while she gets her spiritual questions answered. To those whose financial gifts have afforded her this opportunity, Trinity offers her thanks. “You have given me so much,” she says, expression open and sincere, “not just clothes, food, shelter and friends, but a new start. I’m different! Now, I’m going to school more and learning instead of getting in trouble. My attitude toward grownups has changed, and I found out I really enjoy helping younger kids, fixing their hair, teaching them how to choose their outfits and stuff. If it weren’t for you, I’d probably be in juvenile detention right now, going nowhere, but now I have a home and a chance. I wish I could pay you back for all this. Words just don’t feel like enough.”