Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children

 

All She Wants

“A happy heart makes the face cheerful...” Proverbs 15:13

AlexWarm and engaging, 16-year-old Alex has a way of making you feel as if she’s known you forever. Her eyes hint at mischief, and her ready giggle is contagious. Although it’s hard to believe that a happy teenager like Alex could have ever known anything but contentment and peace, she has experienced her share of heartache.

“I was living with my biological sister and my grandma because my birth mom couldn’t take care of me and my sister,” Alex begins. “My grandma was sick, so she wasn’t exactly the best caretaker. She used to beat us and withhold food from us. She died October 17, 2008. I remember that day clearly. That’s when we went to live with my aunt and uncle until a home could be found for us. After a while, we were taken by a really great family that already had boys because they felt like God wanted them to have girls, too.”

Alex’s adoption was finalized in 2012, but her wounded heart still had some healing to do. “I was disobeying my parents. I was lying to them and stealing from my siblings,” Alex admits, her regret obvious. “I wasn’t doing my best in school, either, and they got tired of it. A friend of my dad’s knew about Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children, so we visited. I loved Miss Kate from the start and knew that if I had to go somewhere to get better, this was going to be it.”

Although she knew that coming to live at OBHC was the right choice for her, Alex was afraid at first. “I was really nervous,” Alex remembers. “I didn’t think I was going to like it or make it through the first week. When my family dropped me off, my sister started crying. It was hard to be separated from her after everything we’d gone through together.” Alex swallows hard at the memory. “Pretty soon, I started to feel comfortable, though, just from being around my houseparents and their kids. I realized I was surrounded by people who loved me and wanted to help me. I thought to myself, ‘I’m here. I have a chance to make a difference in my life. If I do, I’ll get to go home and be with my family faster.’ I made an effort, and it worked. I go on home visits and love that, but I’m at a place now where I’m not trying to get home fast anymore. I want to be where God wants me to be for as long as He wants me to be there. If I’m supposed to be here longer, that’s fine with me.”

Alex continues, “I like the people here a lot. I like how nice everybody is to each other. Even though there is conflict sometimes, everyone is there for each other. My former house mom, Miss Clark, she’s crazy. She just has the best personality. She will joke around with you and make you laugh until you just about wet your pants. She’s just a wonderful person. She’s taught me that just because I went through what I went through doesn’t mean that I have to let it hold me back. My past doesn’t define who I am. I have to keep looking forward.”

Alex accepted Jesus before coming to live at OBHC, but is experiencing significant spiritual growth with the help of OBHC adults. “I’ve changed a lot for the better,” she smiles. “For instance, I haven’t really lied. I used to be so mean to my siblings and used to be mean to everyone. Now I’m just enthusiastic, nice, and kind. I feel like I have a good heart.”

Alex isn’t sure what she wants to be when she grows up, but she knows that her future will be better for the lessons she has learned at OBHC. To those who support OBHC financially, Alex offers her sincere thanks. “Thank you for donating to this place. It’s amazing, really, how much thought and effort they put into everything they do for us. For me, being here means that every day is a new day and I can be a better person than I was the day before. As long as I just keep doing that, I know I’ll be a better mom, a better wife, a better anything than I am now or would have been. That’s all I want.”

May, 2015


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